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Tuesday, December 25, 2007
How to Love Your Wife
Introduction
When you are married, you truly do become one. If you do not act as one, then that is against the nature of marriage and it will be painful. The following is logical deduction of the husband's part of the equation, the equation being 100% + 100% = 100%. Please read all the way to the bottom and I am sure you will count yourself blessed.
Instructions
Difficulty: Moderately Challenging
Things You'll Need
Ears to listen
A heart for action
A wife would help too.
Steps
1Step OneLove: First let’s preface this ‘How To’ with an understanding of Love. There is Love, the emotion, and there is Love, the action. “He who loves his wife loves himself”(1). This is the emotion. Most do not have to choose to love themselves, rather they have just grown quite attached to themselves and sincerely do not wish to do harm to themselves. In fact, they would do anything to avoid it. When Paul writes to love your wife in this way, he means that in every situation you should desire that no harm befall your wife.
2Step TwoHere is the action, the command. “Love your wives”; give yourself up for her(2). The command to love means to do love. What would make others see love in what you do, that would make your wife feel love, is how you do love. In simplest form, bring her flowers and tell her, “I love you." That’s just a start though. You are also commanded to give yourself up for her. The obvious implication is that you should be willing to die for her. This is actually common. What is more difficult than dying? Give your life for her. In all you do, do it with the interests of your wife in mind.
(1) Ephesians 5:28
(2) Ephesians 5:25
3Step ThreeForgiveness and Radiance: Have a heart for your wife. This again is the emotion of love. “Make her holy, cleansing her”(3). “Present her…without stain or wrinkle”(4). When your wife is in need of it, cleanse her; forgive her, when she acts against you. For example, you ask your wife to get you steak at the store and you get mad because she says that you eat too much red meat. Forgive and forget. Don’t allow yourself to harbor any bitterness and you will feel the love for your wife.
(3) Ephesians 5:26
(4) Ephesians 5:27
4Step FourThe Head: Many people read this section first and stop. “Wives submit to your husbands” (5). And then they stop there. There is a whole other study for the wives. The implication in this passage is that if the man truly loves his wife (that’s the action and the emotion), the wife will gladly submit to the man.
(5) Ephesians 5:22
5Step FiveApplication:
1) Don’t harbor bitterness and you will be happier.
2) Consider your wife’s best interests throughout the day and your wife will be happier.
3) A happy wife really is a happy husband.
When you are married, you truly do become one. If you do not act as one, then that is against the nature of marriage and it will be painful. The following is logical deduction of the husband's part of the equation, the equation being 100% + 100% = 100%. Please read all the way to the bottom and I am sure you will count yourself blessed.
Instructions
Difficulty: Moderately Challenging
Things You'll Need
Ears to listen
A heart for action
A wife would help too.
Steps
1Step OneLove: First let’s preface this ‘How To’ with an understanding of Love. There is Love, the emotion, and there is Love, the action. “He who loves his wife loves himself”(1). This is the emotion. Most do not have to choose to love themselves, rather they have just grown quite attached to themselves and sincerely do not wish to do harm to themselves. In fact, they would do anything to avoid it. When Paul writes to love your wife in this way, he means that in every situation you should desire that no harm befall your wife.
2Step TwoHere is the action, the command. “Love your wives”; give yourself up for her(2). The command to love means to do love. What would make others see love in what you do, that would make your wife feel love, is how you do love. In simplest form, bring her flowers and tell her, “I love you." That’s just a start though. You are also commanded to give yourself up for her. The obvious implication is that you should be willing to die for her. This is actually common. What is more difficult than dying? Give your life for her. In all you do, do it with the interests of your wife in mind.
(1) Ephesians 5:28
(2) Ephesians 5:25
3Step ThreeForgiveness and Radiance: Have a heart for your wife. This again is the emotion of love. “Make her holy, cleansing her”(3). “Present her…without stain or wrinkle”(4). When your wife is in need of it, cleanse her; forgive her, when she acts against you. For example, you ask your wife to get you steak at the store and you get mad because she says that you eat too much red meat. Forgive and forget. Don’t allow yourself to harbor any bitterness and you will feel the love for your wife.
(3) Ephesians 5:26
(4) Ephesians 5:27
4Step FourThe Head: Many people read this section first and stop. “Wives submit to your husbands” (5). And then they stop there. There is a whole other study for the wives. The implication in this passage is that if the man truly loves his wife (that’s the action and the emotion), the wife will gladly submit to the man.
(5) Ephesians 5:22
5Step FiveApplication:
1) Don’t harbor bitterness and you will be happier.
2) Consider your wife’s best interests throughout the day and your wife will be happier.
3) A happy wife really is a happy husband.
Top 10 list of ways to honor and love your wife
10. Give small gifts even when it's not her birthday. When you go to the store, pick up a rose. If she likes crafts, pick up some thread. It doesn't need to be big, but it says she was in your thoughts while you were apart.
9. When she's troubled by something, even if you think it's nothing, remember that it is real to her and be supportive.
8. When she has a problem, realize that she may not be asking you to solve the problem but just to listen and let her know she's not facing it alone.
7. Let pleasing her be enough to please you. Do things pleasing to her because you love her and not just so she'll return the favor.
6. Let the things that matter to her matter to you. If she roots for a particular team, root with her. If she does cross-stitch, pick out designs that you'd like to see, and maybe even ask her to teach you how.
5. Encourage her time with other women, who understand what it means to be a woman, and can affirm her femininity in ways that only women can.
4. If you are going out, offer to run errands for her while you are out. If she is going out, ask if there are things you can do around the house while she is gone.
3. If she is trying to improve herself, take note and encourage her, but make sure you don't suggest that you'll love her more after she improves herself.
2. Not all loving touch needs to lead to intercourse. Our wives need to know that there are times when we are holding them because we love them and not because we are looking forward to our own pleasure.
1. Pray for her and ask her how you can help her grow in her individual relationship with God, including areas that don't directly benefit you.
9. When she's troubled by something, even if you think it's nothing, remember that it is real to her and be supportive.
8. When she has a problem, realize that she may not be asking you to solve the problem but just to listen and let her know she's not facing it alone.
7. Let pleasing her be enough to please you. Do things pleasing to her because you love her and not just so she'll return the favor.
6. Let the things that matter to her matter to you. If she roots for a particular team, root with her. If she does cross-stitch, pick out designs that you'd like to see, and maybe even ask her to teach you how.
5. Encourage her time with other women, who understand what it means to be a woman, and can affirm her femininity in ways that only women can.
4. If you are going out, offer to run errands for her while you are out. If she is going out, ask if there are things you can do around the house while she is gone.
3. If she is trying to improve herself, take note and encourage her, but make sure you don't suggest that you'll love her more after she improves herself.
2. Not all loving touch needs to lead to intercourse. Our wives need to know that there are times when we are holding them because we love them and not because we are looking forward to our own pleasure.
1. Pray for her and ask her how you can help her grow in her individual relationship with God, including areas that don't directly benefit you.
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